When a
date goes awry, it’s easy to get caught up in disappointment and question what
could have made it successful. Sometimes it’s just not in the stars for you and
your date, but other times you may be unintentionally sabotaging any future
chances. Here are the top 10 mistakes that could keep you from getting a second
date:
1) Interrogating
the other person. It’s a date, not an interview. While it’s important to
ask questions and appear interested, it’s also important not to go overboard.
Make sure to talk about yourself after you have asked a few questions in a row.
2) Over-emphasizing
serious topics. It’s good to get a little deeper and discuss relationship
issues, just make sure to keep it light and have some fun — especially in the
beginning.
3) Picking
a loud or uncomfortable date spot. Be careful where you pick to meet up.
It’s okay to hit up a fun, hip bar or restaurant, but consider meeting for a
drink somewhere quiet at first. When you meet for the first time, it is so
important to be able to simply hear each other to avoid miscommunication.
There’s nothing worse than playing the “What?” game on a first date.
4) Being
rude. Always try to be polite – offer to hold doors and pull out chairs. Be
respectful to the waiting staff. You never get a second chance at a first
impression.
5) Don’t
look at the TV during your date. Yes, this actually happens, plenty of bars
and restaurants have giant, juicy flatscreens on, but don’t let your eyes
wander — it shows disinterest even if you really are interested!
6) Being
silent. Having topics or questions prepared can ease any awkward tension or
fill any conversational lulls, keeping you from being a boring date. 7) Sharing
your opinions as facts — and not opinions. If your date asks about your
favorite type of music, instead of responding with “Rock is the best,
everything else is bad,” respond with “Personally I enjoy rock but would love
to hear your thoughts.” Be engaging!
8) Negative
body language. Make eye contact, and don’t check out people of the opposite
s*x (this is a no-brainer). You’re here to get to know your date, and eyeing
other people will make him or her question your interest.
9) Getting
drunk! It’s cool to go out for a drink, not twelve. Your focus should be on
getting to know your date, and that’s hard to do when you’ve had too much to
drink. 10) Inviting friends. Don’t invite friends, or suggest a meeting with
your friends for the first encounter. It’s all about judging chemistry and
connection, and your date shouldn’t have to compete for your attention during
your first meeting.
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